Tell me what is the minimum you require. That's all. I want to plan a budget and see how workable is it. What do you need? A lunch reception? A dinner? I'm not asking you to make it work. I just want you to tell me so that I can see how and when it's gonna work.
You say one thing but mean another. I want your extended family to come as well. But you told me it's ok if they don't. So I assumed what you said it's true. How am I supposed to know that that's not the case?
You keep saying that it won't work out when you don't even tell me what you have in mind. If it can't work out, it can't. There. So be it. But instead of you keep on repeating like a broken recorder about how you don't want to think about it because it won't work out, tell me what you want and I WILL WORK IT OUT. If we don't have a target to work to, how will I know how to work towards it?
Why can't you see something so simple? I'm not torturing you before your exams, I just want to know that you are committed to giving it proper thought after your exams. This relationship isn't just about you, I have things that I want too and you know that since the beginning, it was my dream to get married early. It hurts me a lot that you think I'm being selfish and causing you stress. Is it so difficult to think about what you are expecting so that I can work towards it? I'm not even asking you to make it work out.
It's not about me wanting it because others have it. This was my dream, right from the start, right before anyone got married.
What hurts me a lot is that you were intending to just let it pass. I was looking forward to when you come back and when we can start making things work (if we can, I can't even tell if we can now because you are being a dick head about not wanting to think about what you want) but your intention was to just drag it as long as you can and just allow it to not happen. I was pretty sure we were going to make it happen but you seem to have other plans.
Is it that difficult to tell me what it is you want/require in our wedding after your exams so that I can plan it out?
What exactly is it that is bugging you?
I'm sick of doing this over and over again, and quarelling about it over and over again. But as long as you are not truthful about what you want and what you are thinking, this will never ever work out.
I want to get married so badly because I want to be with you. I want to be there with you every night at the end of a long day, talk to you and unwind. What's the point of getting married only to have to be apart from you again? I'm making the ultimate sacrifice of moving eventually, is it that hard for you to think about what you want for the wedding in return?
You're not the only one who's tired of this. I am too. I'm not the broken recorder here. You are. Because as long as there isn't a plan, nothing is going to work out because there isn't even anything to work for.
Relationships are about compromises. Why does everything have to go your way, why does it all have to anchor around what you want? I'm not asking for a solution. I'm thinking of the solution, you just fucking tell me what you want.
